For the Family: The Joy Thief…Attachment

I don’t know about you, but when I stop to consider any disruption to my happiness I immediately begin to correlate it with my circumstances. I can point to any number of things that are not in alignment with my will and assign varying degrees of blame to them. Recently I sat down to look at a reading before my meditation and the words on the page began to awaken my spirit. They spoke to me directly it seemed about my quest for joy. Anthony de Mello states, “You falsely think your fears protect you, your beliefs have made you […]

My Daughter Showed Me What It Means To Be Humble

What a journey we have taken over the past 7 years.  My firstborn daughter celebrated her 4th year of sobriety last April.  I can still remember the shock and total disbelief I felt when I was finally able to admit to myself that she was addicted to heroin.  I did not know what this looked like and worse I was in total denial for a long time.  At least I was.  My wife told me time and time again that something was wrong but I refused to see it, always thinking she was getting better and that she no longer […]

The Segue Program: A Lifeline for the Recovering Addict and Family

BRC Recovery’s Segue Program is an invaluable resource for families who have a loved one in the early stages of recovery. Our son went through BRC Recovery in 2015, and when he completed the inpatient program, he transitioned to the sober living apartments and enrolled in the 12-month Segue program. At that time, only BRC Recovery inpatient graduates were permitted to enroll in the Segue program. When I learned recently that BRC Recovery has opened the program to anyone who wants a supportive aftercare program, I was thrilled! Over the last few years, I have met many people who have […]

Remaining Teachable

Last summer I had just finished a difficult Brazilian jiu-jitsu training session and was hot, sweaty and exhausted. I dragged myself to my car and within a few seconds of starting it up received a text from my mother. She was asking me what all I put into the protein shakes that I make myself routinely in the mornings. Immediately my self-centeredness kicked in and I began thinking to myself, “Why does she want to know what ingredients I use?” I am much younger than she is and in a different time of my life with different requirements than her […]

God Made Me This Way

Why are they so skinny? While having my morning cup o’ Joe, I sat and watched an episode of Dr.Oz. The segment was about learning to love yourself the way that you are and being your best self.  God always knows what I need to hear and when I need to hear it. At over eight months pregnant now, it is easy to compare myself to other women.  Why are they so skinny? Why haven’t they gained as much weight during their pregnancy as I have during my own? What can I do to get in shape? All are serious […]

Addiction: It’s a Family Disease

Addiction, BRC Recovery I want you to know something. I hate you. You are among the cruelest of maladies. You twist love into unrecognizable tangles and place gulfs between loved ones that appear too wide to bridge. I want you to know that even though it often seems that you are winning, I will always love my son. I am the mother of an addict. My son has been in the clutches of this deadly disease for over eleven years. He fell off the edge of the earth at 16 years of age and began a dark, dark journey that took his soul and broke […]

Fear and Acceptance

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Fear of accepting Many fears kept me on the fence with sobriety for a long time. Fear of accepting I had a problem, fear of the label of alcoholic and the fear of a new way of life I heard about in recovery. When I drank, I felt free of my overwhelming emotions and problems. Drinking was my solution to dealing with fear and how could I handle life without it? What would life look like without alcohol? How would I manage to handle things? I was afraid. Today I know exactly what life looks like without alcohol. The fear […]

Bye Bye Comfort Zone

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2017 Opioid & Heroin Mississippi Drug Summit Last week I had the honor of attending the 2017 Opioid & Heroin Mississippi Drug Summit. What a groundbreaking time. From police officers to child protective service workers to church and treatment center counselors to narcotics bureau agents to professional baseball players in recovery to media reporters from Mississippi Today – the event was packed with people from all walks of life. The common denominator was their interest in addressing the addiction epidemic sweeping this country. I have never been a part of such a collaborative and impactful event. Some months ago my […]