Fixing Myself, Part 1

You’ve discovered your loved one or friend is an alcoholic or addict—now what? For many people in that situation, their first reaction is, “What can I do to fix my alcoholic/addict?” I know that was my reaction, and I tried a lot of things that didn’t work: checking his trunk to see if he had bottles or cans stashed, drawing up agreements for him to sign, buying a breathalyzer, and the list goes on…. It took a while for me to figure out that I couldn’t “fix” my son. Instead, I needed to focus on fixing myself, because my son […]

A Parent’s Perspective: Finding Help, Hope, and Health

My world was spinning out of control and I had no idea how to fix it. Of my four sons, one was dead of a drug overdose, and another was a severe alcoholic, although I didn’t really understand or believe that at the time. Relationships among family members were fraught with tension and unexpressed feelings, and my marriage had deteriorated severely. Figuratively speaking, I clung to each of my living sons fiercely, leaving my talon marks in their flesh. I demanded that my oldest son, who lives out of town, call me weekly; and I spent most of my time […]

A Parent’s Perspective: Embracing Uncertainty

Control Enthusiast I’m a recovering control freak (I like to think of it as “control enthusiast”) and a grateful Al-Anon. After spending 2014 in introspection, meditating and reading self-help books in an effort to learn more about myself and develop a motto for my life, I was inspired to “embrace uncertainty.” As it turned out, my Higher Power had a sense of humor, because I didn’t even know Step 1 yet! Within a few weeks, I found myself in the rooms of Al-Anon, where I learned Step 1, “We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.” […]

It’s Hard to Hate Up Close

My name is Marsha Stone, and I am a person in long term recovery. I am gratefully sober and serene today, but this was not always the case. For years I was in and out of rehabilitation facilities, desperately trying to arrest my illness, all the while, hurting friends and families alike with the collateral damage associated with alcoholism. There are so many misconceptions in this country and throughout the world about what addiction means, and further about what recovery means. Many see alcoholism and addiction as an illness of the weak willed, a moral failing of some sort, and […]

Understanding Austin Recovery Centers for Alcoholism

Though there are many Austin recovery centers which aim to help alcoholism, finding one which has a high success rate, which is reasonably affordable, and takes a holistic approach to helping their residents can be an arduous process. Frequently, alcoholics or their loved ones don’t really understand that alcoholism is a serious and potentially fatal disease, and they don’t know exactly what they are looking for when they are finally ready to address the problem. Alcoholism represents an addiction that can quickly lead to financial ruin, a torn-apart family, and premature death on the part of the alcoholic. Someone suffering […]

SpirMal

Overheard from a friend a few weeks ago, “My SpirMal went shopping today!” That caught my attention…SpirMal? What is that? I was quickly educated… SpirMal, as in, short for Spiritual Malady. Got it. I might not have known the term but I sure know something about spiritual malady. Restless, irritable, discontented. Not quite sure where I want to be but certain it isn’t where I currently am, and moreover, just generally annoyed. An old friend of mine described the untreated alcoholic personality as ‘slightly unhappy all the time.’ Kind of describes me the last few days… Seriously, has anyone else […]

Top 5 Things To Consider When Looking For Alcohol Rehab

  Admitting that you need to go to an alcohol rehab center is a huge decision. This is a moment in your life that you are likely to remember forever, the moment that you admitted you needed help, your Step One Experience: “We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable,” Big Book page 59. BRC Recovery understands how important taking this first step in your journey to recovery is and how crucial finding the right alcohol rehab program for your greatest chance of obtaining permanent sobriety is now. With our experience and knowledge of […]

Step 2 – Michael Kerr

Mike Kerr, Recovery Coach Segue Program Benchmark Recovery Center   Hello, everyone, my name is Mike Kerr. I’m a recovery coach at the Segue program at Benchmark Recovery Center. A little over three years ago, I walked into the doors of Benchmark, and I was in a place where I was willing to hear an answer. I didn’t know what that answer was. I didn’t know what the answer looked like, but I needed an answer. What happened while I was there was incredible, considering that I walked in very humbled, humiliated and willing to hear something different, do something different, wanted to think […]