#GivingTuesday: Give Life

As the holiday season approaches, I’ve been thinking about the act of giving and receiving and what it means.  How one thoughtful gift can make an average day extraordinary.  How one donation—big or small—can spark a never-ending ripple effect in the lake of life that can change the course of someone’s life and the lives of countless others. Yet I quickly lose sight of the spirit of giving amid the twinkling lights, fancy ornaments, stockings, and presents.  I am completely swept away by the hustle and bustle the holiday ushers in. I forget that two years ago, with a broken […]

Boundaries and Codependency

Before our daughter agreed to surrender and receive help for her addiction she was deep in the trenches of that chaotic life and my life was in shambles.  I am a mom to 3 other grown children and a wife, but those were all put on the back burner so I could attend to her. My life was consumed with her. Her mess was my mess, her bad decisions seemed like my bad decisions, her bad days were my bad days. Her life was out of control and my life was at an all-time high with trying to fix her. […]

What Does Fun in Sobriety Look Like

When I was asked to write a blog on the topic of fun in sobriety, of course the first thing I did was Google “fun in sobriety.” I was curious to know how most people in recovery answered the question of having fun in sobriety. The first page of Google results mostly consisted of lists of fun activities to discover/rediscover in early sobriety.  I think it goes without saying that many of us have lost our passion for life by the time we got sober and that one way of regaining it is through fellowship activities and learning how to […]

Key Reasons to Look for the Best Drug Treatment Center

Looking for an excellent drug treatment center is crucial to those who suffer from the disease of alcoholism and substance abuse. Some people assume that they can change for the better by themselves and overcome intense cravings for drugs; however, it is much safer and more effective to become sober, obtain long-term sobriety, and increase health benefits by consulting an expert on drug addiction treatment. In a drug rehab facility, clients can detox under the direct supervision of a medical staff who will provide medical assistance and observation during the detoxification process and help ease the withdrawal symptoms. While in […]

We Had To Quit Playing God

I sat there, staring at my iPhone, waiting for the little bubbles to pop up on my screen indicating that my friend was responding to my text message.  Time seemed to stand still as I waited for that text to come through. The message I was waiting to receive was one that would tell me that she was ready to get sober. That response never came. Time and time again I have tried to help her get sober and nothing has ever worked. I stayed up nights on end thinking of diverse ways that I could convince her to muster […]

Delight

Recently, BRC was asked by our good friend Ken Seeley of Intervention 911, and the producers of The Doctors TV Show to accept a patient struggling with heroin addiction for treatment. I flew to LA to meet with Ken, the family of the patient, and for the taping of the episode. What an exhilarating, whirlwind experience! Returning home, pretty tired, I stood impatiently at the airport baggage carousel waiting for my luggage to appear. All the while, texting my husband and slightly irritated about the delay – I was tired and past ready to be home! At the end of […]

My Daughter Showed Me What It Means To Be Humble

What a journey we have taken over the past 7 years.  My firstborn daughter celebrated her 4th year of sobriety last April.  I can still remember the shock and total disbelief I felt when I was finally able to admit to myself that she was addicted to heroin.  I did not know what this looked like and worse I was in total denial for a long time.  At least I was.  My wife told me time and time again that something was wrong but I refused to see it, always thinking she was getting better and that she no longer […]

Fear and Acceptance

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Fear of accepting Many fears kept me on the fence with sobriety for a long time. Fear of accepting I had a problem, fear of the label of alcoholic and the fear of a new way of life I heard about in recovery. When I drank, I felt free of my overwhelming emotions and problems. Drinking was my solution to dealing with fear and how could I handle life without it? What would life look like without alcohol? How would I manage to handle things? I was afraid. Today I know exactly what life looks like without alcohol. The fear […]