Boundaries and Codependency

Before our daughter agreed to surrender and receive help for her addiction she was deep in the trenches of that chaotic life and my life was in shambles.  I am a mom to 3 other grown children and a wife, but those were all put on the back burner so I could attend to her. My life was consumed with her. Her mess was my mess, her bad decisions seemed like my bad decisions, her bad days were my bad days. Her life was out of control and my life was at an all-time high with trying to fix her. […]

What Does Fun in Sobriety Look Like

When I was asked to write a blog on the topic of fun in sobriety, of course the first thing I did was Google “fun in sobriety.” I was curious to know how most people in recovery answered the question of having fun in sobriety. The first page of Google results mostly consisted of lists of fun activities to discover/rediscover in early sobriety.  I think it goes without saying that many of us have lost our passion for life by the time we got sober and that one way of regaining it is through fellowship activities and learning how to […]

Key Reasons to Look for the Best Drug Treatment Center

Looking for an excellent drug treatment center is crucial to those who suffer from the disease of alcoholism and substance abuse. Some people assume that they can change for the better by themselves and overcome intense cravings for drugs; however, it is much safer and more effective to become sober, obtain long-term sobriety, and increase health benefits by consulting an expert on drug addiction treatment. In a drug rehab facility, clients can detox under the direct supervision of a medical staff who will provide medical assistance and observation during the detoxification process and help ease the withdrawal symptoms. While in […]

We Had To Quit Playing God

I sat there, staring at my iPhone, waiting for the little bubbles to pop up on my screen indicating that my friend was responding to my text message.  Time seemed to stand still as I waited for that text to come through. The message I was waiting to receive was one that would tell me that she was ready to get sober. That response never came. Time and time again I have tried to help her get sober and nothing has ever worked. I stayed up nights on end thinking of diverse ways that I could convince her to muster […]

Special Announcement: For the Family

“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.”  – Brene Brown Each time I read this quote by world renowned author and researcher, Brene Brown, I am reminded of the importance of the family recovery process. It can be more than overwhelming to step out on faith and engage in the journey of healing with addiction in our families. It begins with a decision. We decide that we are worthy of healing. We are worthy of self-care. We are worthy of community among ourselves. This decision is what has the power […]

For the Family: The Joy Thief…Attachment

I don’t know about you, but when I stop to consider any disruption to my happiness I immediately begin to correlate it with my circumstances. I can point to any number of things that are not in alignment with my will and assign varying degrees of blame to them. Recently I sat down to look at a reading before my meditation and the words on the page began to awaken my spirit. They spoke to me directly it seemed about my quest for joy. Anthony de Mello states, “You falsely think your fears protect you, your beliefs have made you […]

My Daughter Showed Me What It Means To Be Humble

What a journey we have taken over the past 7 years.  My firstborn daughter celebrated her 4th year of sobriety last April.  I can still remember the shock and total disbelief I felt when I was finally able to admit to myself that she was addicted to heroin.  I did not know what this looked like and worse I was in total denial for a long time.  At least I was.  My wife told me time and time again that something was wrong but I refused to see it, always thinking she was getting better and that she no longer […]

The Segue Program: A Lifeline for the Recovering Addict and Family

BRC Recovery’s Segue Program is an invaluable resource for families who have a loved one in the early stages of recovery. Our son went through BRC Recovery in 2015, and when he completed the inpatient program, he transitioned to the sober living apartments and enrolled in the 12-month Segue program. At that time, only BRC Recovery inpatient graduates were permitted to enroll in the Segue program. When I learned recently that BRC Recovery has opened the program to anyone who wants a supportive aftercare program, I was thrilled! Over the last few years, I have met many people who have […]