Today’s Reminder: Responsibility
“Problems arise when boundaries of responsibility are confused. We are to love one another, not be one another.”
~ Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend ~
The Ten Laws of Boundaries Series
Law #2: The Law of Responsibility
People who set limits exhibit self-control and show responsibility for themselves. This is an act of love. When we accept responsibility in our family system for the behavior of the addicted loved one, by giving in to their demands or controlling behavior, the love in our relationship is damaged. Boundaries protect the health and growth of our relationships. The most responsible behavior possible is often times the most difficult. You face a risk in setting boundaries and gaining control of your life. When you count the cost of the consequences, as difficult or as costly as they may seem, they hardly compare to the loss of your “very self.”
3 C’s of Al-Anon
- We didn’t CAUSE it
- We can’t CONTROL it
- We can’t CURE it
AND WE WON’T CONTRIBUTE TO IT TODAY
Considerations for the Week
- In what ways can I see that I have given in to the demands of my loved one? In what ways have I been controlled by my loved one’s behaviors?
- How have I compromised my own responsibilities due to worrying or trying to control my loved one’s life?
- What actions am I willing to take in the upcoming week that would point me in the direction of having more self-respect and tending to my own personal responsibilities in life? Share your action plan with someone in your support network and follow through!