Weekly Focal Point
“Hence it was most evident that a solitary self-appraisal, and the admission of our defects based upon that alone, wouldn’t be nearly enough. We’d have to have outside help if we were surely to know and admit the truth about ourselves-the help of God and another human being.”
~ Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, pg. 59 ~
Twelve Step Series: Step 5
Step Five: Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
“Humility is one of the underlining thoughts of the Twelve Steps. Step One sets up the pattern for us: “admitted we were powerless.” In Step Two, we acknowledged a Power greater than ourselves. With Step Three, we relinquished control by deciding to “turn our will and our lives over” to that Power. In Step Four, we faced up to our shortcomings. All of this concerned the quality and purpose of humility. The Step before this one started us on a continuing process of uncovering what we were really like. We learned day by day to observe what actions might have kept us from realizing our true potential and getting from life the serenity it could bring. We decided to do a three-fold “admitting” to God, to ourselves, and to another person.”
(Al-Anon’s Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions, pg. 31)
3 C’s of Al-Anon
- We didn’t CAUSE it
- We can’t CONTROL it
- We can’t CURE it
AND WE WON’T CONTRIBUTE TO IT TODAY
***Next Family Afterward Meeting will take place on March 23rd 7 p.m. CST via Zoom***
Considerations for the Week
- Have I been so focused on my loved one that I have neglected to have humility around my own shortcomings in the family system?
- Am I willing to take an honest inventory and admit those things to my Higher Power, myself and a trusted member of Al-Anon? Do I fully understand the spiritual purpose behind taking this step?
- Does the idea of setting aside old ways of thinking and patterns of behavior seem attractive to me? Would I be willing to go to any lengths to achieve the freedom found in completing a fifth step in the program of family recovery?