Weekly Focal Point
“We attempt to sweep away the debris which has accumulated out of our effort to live on self-will and run the show ourselves. If we haven’t the will to do this, we ask until it comes.”
~ Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous pg. 76 ~
Twelve Step Series: Step Eight
Step Eight: We made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
“It was difficult for us to determine how something we had done could have hurt someone else or what hidden motives we might have had for what we had done. We may have even wondered why we should become willing to make amends. We may have felt tempted to justify what we did by thinking, “But I did that only because of what she did to me. Or, I only meant to help him get sober. How could I know it was going to turn out that way?” We could not let ourselves take refuge in excuses, or Step Eight would not have done its best work for us. We might have presumed that a wrong we did was due only to some character flaw in us, but this wasn’t always so. Many of us did damage with beautiful qualities such as kindness, love, sympathy and tolerance. Even with the best of intentions, we wreaked havoc on ourselves and others. Finally, what about the harm we had inflicted on ourselves through the years? Hadn’t we suffered because of our own errors of judgment, our willfulness, and other shortcomings? Most of us had many amends to make to ourselves now that we had found ways to improve our lives. Certainly, we deserved to be on our list, too.”
(Al-Anon’s Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions, pg. 49, 50 & 51)
3 C’s of Al-Anon
- We didn’t CAUSE it
- We can’t CONTROL it
- We can’t CURE it
AND WE WON’T CONTRIBUTE TO IT TODAY
***Next Family Afterward Meeting will take place on April 27th @ 7 p.m. CST via Zoom***
Considerations for the Week
- Am I willing to consider the possibility that I have caused damage even utilizing positive attributes that I possess?
- Is my list of amends that I made when I looked at my inventory thorough and complete? Have I acknowledged that I may owe amends to myself as well?
- Am I prepared to clean up the wreckage of the past and keep my side of the street clean moving forward, regardless if my loved one does the same in their program of recovery?