Today’s Reminder: Responsibility
“Problems arise when boundaries of responsibility are confused. We are to love one another, not be one another.”
~ Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend ~
(Authors of Boundaries)
The Ten Laws of Boundaries Series
Law #2: The Law of Responsibility
People who set limits exhibit self-control and show responsibility for themselves. This is an act of love. When we accept responsibility in our family system for the behavior of the addicted loved one, by giving in to their demands or controlling behavior, the love in our relationship is damaged. Boundaries protect the health and growth of our relationships. The most responsible behavior possible is often times the most difficult. You face a risk in setting boundaries and gaining control of your life. When you count the cost of the consequences, as difficult or as costly as they may seem, they hardly compare to the loss of your “very self”.
3 C’s of Al-Anon
- We didn’t CAUSE it
- We can’t CONTROL it
- We can’t CURE it
AND WE WON’T CONTRIBUTE TO IT TODAY
Questions to Consider This Week
- What is my motive for not allowing my loved one to take responsibility for their own life?
- How has my need to control my loved one’s actions damaged my relationship with not only myself but my loved one as well?
- Is it possible that I can begin to protect the health and growth of my relationships in order to identify and nurture my true self?