Three things I will practice every day from now on:
- I will stop being a crutch for the alcoholic/addict.
- I will not let myself concentrate on the distressing features of my present existence, but will look for the good things in it.
- I will remind myself that self-respect can relieve me of the need for pity, my own and others.
One Day At A Time Series: Self-Pity
Have I the courage to face up to the problems that alcoholism has brought into my life? Can I believe that my situation is not really hopeless and that I am capable of improving it? Can I keep myself cheerful when everything seems to be leading me to despair? The answer could be YES, if I refuse to accept the alcoholic’s responsibilities and leave them to him, regardless of the consequences. I could overcome my hopelessness by opening my eyes to the troubles other people live with, so often much worse than mine. I could bring myself to a brighter view of life if I weren’t always feeling sorry for myself; despair is often a mask for self-pity.
3 C’s of Al-Anon
- We didn’t CAUSE it
- We can’t CONTROL it
- We can’t CURE it
AND WE WON’T CONTRIBUTE TO IT TODAY
Questions to Consider This Week
- How has being a crutch for the alcoholic/addict caused me to fall into self-pity?
- How has this self-pity kept me from having a new experience with my Creator?
- Will I prayerfully consider that my perspective needs to be changed in order for me to gain the freedom that I am seeking in family recovery?